Undeviating Vicissitudes

They say, “There is nothing permanent in this world except change.” Yes, they are absolutely right. But there’s something oozing in today’s world that is adequately visible in my naked eyes and in my barefaced life. I always ended myself asking “Will there be a strong repugnance answers into this predicament?”. Well what I am referring into was my strong objection against this Filipino trait which Filipino loves to do. This is the Filipino trait that came from the annoying but tasty sea creature and it’s no other than CRAB MENTALITY.

          I don’t know where this trait originated from and who initiated this one. According to Wikipedia, crab mentality is a way of thinking best described by the phrase “if I can’t have it, neither can you.” The metaphor refers to a pot of crab in which ones tries to escape over the side, but it is relentlessly pulled down by the others in the pot.

          Everybody dreams of becoming the best in every aspect in the human life where there are competitions. We join contests to win. We fight to prove we are the greatest. We all want to get the golden cup or sparkling medal for recognition of our glory and hard work. In short, we all born to fight. Just like the saying “survival of the fittest.”

          In our way to the top, we gather friend and peers for help and support. They make our goal-hunting easier and hassle-free. Providing smiles and laughter to wash the tiring competitiveness away.

          But of course, when the road of our goal gets easier, everything changes from flowering to thorns, from white to black, from dawn to dusk, from sunrise to sunset and even from arrivals to departures. I have said earlier, everybody wants to become the best. But sometimes, this “everybody” is your friend.

          This is when the real war begins.

        People start to drag others down so they could work their way on top. Either you deny it or not, we possess this attitude. Crab Mentality. To win, we strive with our best until we realize that our best is not enough, we resort to our last option. The dark evil one: backstabbing, backbiting, gossip, lies, etc. All of these is under crab mentality. We destroy whatever good we have gathered through the way just for prize on top. The flower-friendly adventure has turned into greedy self-centering quests.

       

     What we don’t realize is that our friends, the memories, the smiles, laughters… everything is more than the prize we kill for. All we have to do is open our eyes and see this. Then everything would be more different starting from you.

         

       Why I talk about crab mentality? It is because in reality, this really happens at home, at school, at office, at work and even in our simple daily life.

         Crab mentality is really sickening. Why would someone not let others to succeed? Instead of pulling other people, why not do something that would make them successful as well?

          Crab mentality is another reality that really kicks. So sad, but true.

         Since people master the art of this trait, therefore I say “There is nothing permanent in this world except change and crab mentality.” That is the undeviating vicissitudes.